Blind date: “I told him I would come to his magic show, and I am a woman of my word” | Meet


Rhys on Kate

What did you expect?
A lovely evening, getting to know someone, good food, good company.

First impressions?
A very smiling and happy lady. No discomfort at all.

What did you talk about?
No stone was left unturned. Pastry shop. Broken ovens. Family. Functioning. Flying trapeze. Boxing. How an actor’s brain works. How easily we both cry in front of movies and TV. And sleeping habits.

Awkward moments?
Made a mess with an appetizer – lost my tenuous baguette grip on it. She was kind enough not to talk about it.

Table manners?
Brilliant. She decided early on that chopsticks weren’t the answer for her – I wish I had gone too.

Best thing about Kate?
How interested and involved she was in everything she was.

Would you introduce her to your friends?
Yes – especially the flying trapeze group, because I think she would like that.

Describe Kate in three words?
Warm, engaging, motivated.

Blind date is Saturday’s dating column: every week, two nstrangers are paired up for dinner and drinks, and then spill the beans nto us, answering a set of questions. This runs, with a photograph we ntake of each dater before the date, in Saturday magazine (in then UK) and online at theguardian.com every Saturday. It’s been running since 2009 – you can read all about how we put it together here.

What questions will I be asked?
Wen ask about age, location, occupation, hobbies, interests and the type ofn person you are looking to meet. If you do not think these questions ncover everything you would like to know, tell us what’s on your mind.

Can I choose who I match with?
No,n it’s a blind date! But we do ask you a bit about your interests, npreferences, etc – the more you tell us, the better the match is likely nto be.

Can I pick the photograph?
No, but don't worry: we'll choose the nicest ones.

What personal details will appear?
Your first name, job and age.

How should I answer?
Honestlyn but respectfully. Be mindful of how it will read to your date, and thatn Blind date reaches a large audience, in print and online.

Will I see the other person’s answers?
No. We may edit yours and theirs for a range of reasons, including length, and we may ask you for more details.

Will you find me The One?
We’ll try! Marriage! Babies!

Can I do it in my home town?
Only if it’s in the UK. Many of our applicants live in London, but we would love to hear from people living elsewhere.

How to apply
Email blind.date@theguardian.com

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Blind date is Saturday’s dating column: Each week, two strangers are paired up for dinner and drinks, then spill the beans to us by answering a series of questions. It works, with a photo we take of each dater before the date, in Saturday magazine (in the UK) and online at theguardian.com every Saturday. It’s been running since 2009 – you can read all about how we set it up here.

What questions will I ask myself?
We ask about age, location, profession, hobbies, interests and the type of person you are looking to meet. If you think these questions don’t cover everything you’d like to know, let us know what you think.

Can I choose who I match with?
No, it’s a blind date! But we ask you a bit about your interests, preferences, etc. – the more you tell us, the better the match will be.

Can I choose the photo?
No, but don’t worry: we will choose the most beautiful ones.

What personal information will appear?
Your first name, your job and your age.

How should I respond?
Honestly but respectfully. Be aware of how it will read on your date, and Blind date reaches a wide audience, in print and online.

Will I see the other person’s answers?
No. We may change yours and theirs for various reasons, including length, and we may ask you for more details.

Will you find me The One?
We will try! Marriage! Babies!

Can I do it in my hometown?
Only if it’s in the UK. Many of our applicants live in London, but we would love to hear from people living elsewhere.

How to register
Email blind.date@theguardian.com

Thank you for your opinion.

What do you think she did to you?
Honestly, I have no idea. I hope she found me at least some entertaining and interesting company!

Did you go somewhere?
Only the pipe. She gets up very early and I made a long trip to Oxford.

And… did you kiss?
No.

If you could change one thing tonight, what would it be?
Conversation at the back of the tube was ridiculously difficult, between the noise and the masks. I feel like it all ended quite oddly.

Score out of 10?
8.5

Would you meet again?
Fortunately. If we ever did, I suspect it would be at a parkrun, even though she would be ahead of me the whole way!

Kate and Rhys on their date
Kate and Rhys on their date.
Blind Kate

Kate on Rhys

What did you expect?
A great time and, if nothing else, a great story for the grandkids.

First impressions?
Not my usual type.

What did you talk about?
Llanelli’s pronunciation. Our love of A-level math. How Holiday Inns are better than Travelodges. And why pets should always have human names.

Awkward moments?
Not before the end in the subway. Conversations on loud London hits were hard work even before face masks.

Table manners?
Flawless. He always made sure my water glass was full and mastered the chopsticks (unlike me).

The best thing about Rhys?
A great storyteller and has a kind laugh.

Would you introduce it to your friends?
Not out of romantic interest, but maybe when I drag them to one of his shows.

Describe Rhys in three words?
Intriguing, authentic, magical.

What do you think he did to you?
Overexcitable, easy going, not ready to settle down.

Did you go somewhere?
We went to Oxford Circus, where we said our goodbyes.

And… did you kiss?
No. I never felt like the evening was heading in that direction.

If you could change one thing tonight, what would it be?
He didn’t show me any magic tricks.

Score out of 10?
7

Would you meet again?
Probably not “see you again”, but I told her I would come to her magic show – and I’m a woman of my word.

Kate and Rhys ate at Nanban, London SW9. Fancy a blind date? Email blind.date@theguardian.com

Brian L. Hartfield